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Friday, October 31, 2008

Mono Friday #2: Creepy

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I am always fascinated by this kind of dolls (like Chuckie in Child's Play), but sometimes, when i stare at it at night, an eerie feeling crawl through my vein... creepy!

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Here, wishing you guys a Happy Halloween! and Enjoy your weekend! :)

First Commentator

Congratulations, Tanchi! and thank you for your comment love! :)

Thursday, October 30, 2008

The Gem of Life

M & I enjoy watching TVB series together. Thanks to Astro On Demand, we're able to watch the latest TVB series at the same time with our Hongkie friends. [But also thanks to Astro On Demand, we're RM40 poorer every month, if you know what i meant!] Currently we're watching "The Gem of Life". It has 82 episodes. Yes, i've typed correctly, it's 82 episodes. The longest TVB series, [i think].

Premiering 20th Oct - 8th Feb Mon-Fri, 9.30pm

You may wish to be a famous socialite.
You may wish to have fame and fortune.
But is that really what you will wish for at the end?

In PAK SIU-YAU (LEE SZE KEE, LOUISE)'s eyes, her three daughters are just as perfect as diamonds. She believes that the greatest blessing for a woman is to marry a wealthy man. To guarantee a better life for her daughters, she has started training the girls since they were young, hoping that they will marry into the richest families when they mature.

YAU's first daughter HONG NGA-YIN (SHIU MEI KI, MAGGIE) does not agree with her on her values. Yet when she sees that the man YIN is going out with is KO CHEUNG-SING (LAM, BOWIE), who is very well-off, she decides to let YIN go with her choice. YAU's second daughter HONG NGA-TUNG (LAI CHI, GIGI) is hopelessly romantic but does not seem to have much luck with men. To make it up to her, YAU seeks to match her up with HO CHIT-NAM (CHAN HO, MOSES), the son of Hong Kong's most powerful business tycoon HO FUNG (YUEH HUA). Being the youngest in the family, HONG NGA-SZ (CHOI SIU FUN, ADA) is well aware of YAU's concerns. Having recovered from divorce, SZ now decides to pin all her hopes on FUNG.

YAU's persistence pays off and her daughters have all found a wealthy husband. But money does not really bring them happiness and the sisters are gradually losing themselves in vanity.

~synopsis taken from

Ada Choi as Nga Sze

The three sisters

[click on the pictures to go to the actual source]

Our thoughts: We dislike the character of Gigi Lai in this series. She's stupid and dependant. Always hate to see her scene. Between the three sisters (Maggie Siu, Gigi Lai & Ada Choi), we prefered to watch Ada Choi. She's the most sophisticated one. Tho' she has been cheated by her hubby, but that doesn't mean she's dumb. Her hubby is the dumb one for cheating her.

Well, so far, it has been only less than 10 episodes watched. Maybe we'll change our mind on Gigi's character as we go on. We'll see! :)

First Commentator
***6th time in a row***

Congratulations, Marzie! We Love Ya!!! :)

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Family Planning

Last Thursday, M & I attended a 3 hours talk on Family Planning at Assunta Hospital. This was part of our CMPC. I had to say this was the most interesting talk i've ever attended. Even though we were both feeling a little fatigue that night but the speaker had our full attention during that 3 hours.

We were taught of the male & female reproductive system, latest contraceptive methods available and latest way of abortion - in which the church is strongly against abortion, before being introduced to the main topic: Billings Ovulation Method (BOM), an effective natural method of planning your family. It is based on the correlation of physiological events of the female reproductive cycle with observations made at the vulva. This method is being used in China and is said to be 90% accurate.

Diagram taken from

Interesting facts I've learn:
1) The life span of sperm is 1 day in dry place, and 3-5 days in wet place.
2) A male is fertile all his life long since the day he reached puberty.
3) The testicle is the ideal organ to store & produce sperm because of the temperature. That is why, male are advisable not to wear tight underwear/ pants to allow some room for breathing.
4) A male produces 1000 sperms every second.
5) Not all sperms being produced are healthy. There will be some with big head, some with crooked tail, etc. Only the healthy one will be able to swim to the egg and fertilized.

Diagram taken from

Interesting facts I've learn:
1) The life span of ovum is 1 day.
2) A female is generally most fertile a few days before, during, and after ovulation.
3) Most female ovulate on day 14th from the first day of her menses.

In BOM, we especially the females were taught to recognise the presence of musuc by the wet/ slippery/ lubricatuve sensation & visual observation, and to relate it to her level of fertility and to apply certain rules.

Homework: We were given a charting book to keep record of our observations made at the vulva. The next follow up would be three weeks later. They will then explain your charting.

p/s: I wish i could explain more in details to you guys but I have limited knowledge on BOM and it is hard to explain here. If you are interested, you can contact them yourselves.

Contacts - Natural Fertility Awareness Service of Malaysia
Petaling Jaya & Selangor
English Speaking:
Dr. Celine Pereira Assunta Hospital
03-7782 3762 (H)/

Mr. & Mrs. Matthew & Serina Chong
012-398 1523/

Mr. & Mrs. Nicholas & Honey See
012-379 0703/

Tamil Speaking:
Mrs. Cecilia Anthonysamy
013-637 0079

Mandarin Speaking:
Mrs. Magdalene Cheah
012-289 5637/

First Commentator
***5th time in a row***

Congratulations, Marzie! We Love Ya!!! :)

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

CMPC #4: Sex In Marriage

Most peoples avoid talking about sex in their marriage. But it is really something we should talk about. In the world's perspective, sex is an activity based and it's for self-fulfillment, where as it should be a commitment and a way of saying both of you are united and belong exclusively for each others.

Sex is a day long love making. Allow me quote from the booklet that was given to us to further elaborate on this statement:

You touch each other alot. You are communicating - if not by touch, by words. You talk about anything & everything all the time. You listen to each other, because what is going on inside the other person is so important to you......The more you are really involved with each other all day long in every way, the more exciting & delightful sex will be for you two.
Again, it is back to communication. We must always communicate with our partner to know & understand what is happening in them. Sexual relationship runs into problem as soon as it becomes an activity in which both parties are seeking individual goals and satisfactions.

Homework: To finish the rest of the booklet.

First Commentator
***4th time in a row***

Congratulations, Marzie! We Love Ya!!! :)

Monday, October 27, 2008

Music Monday #2: Sometimes [When It Rains]

Secret Garden - Sometimes [When It Rains]

I've came to know this song while I was in Popular bookstore with darling jean recently. They were playing songs from Secret Garden and i thought thier songs were really easy for the ears. Back home, I downloaded few of their songs and found out that their songs are quite good and began to listen to them nowadays.

Secret Garden features the Irish violinist Fionnuala Sherry and the Norwegian composer/pianist Rolf Lovland. This duo plays New Instrumental Music or known also as Neo-classical Music.

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co-editor: Jean

p/s: I am not very familiar with the html code so i've asked darling jean to help me with this post. She helped me to embed the song. :-)

First Commentator

Congratulations, Marzie! and thank you for your comments love! :)

Friday, October 24, 2008

Mono Friday #1: Kids

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These two precious angels are my nieces, Sweetheart Chloe & Honey Jia May. The elder one, Chloe is 2 yrs and 5 mths old, while the younger one, Jia May is 6 mths old.

M & I, both of us love kids. We've talked about how ownderful it will be of having our own children. The ideal number of children we'll like to have are 2 or 3. This is what we wanted but the real thing is really up to God. May His will be done on earth as in heaven. :)

Happy Friday, everyone! Enjoy your weekend! :)

First Commentator

Congratulations, Marzie! and thank you for your comments love! :)

Monday, October 20, 2008

CMPC #3: God & Marriage

In our third session of CMPC, we talked about God's desire for our marriage and are we ready to give ourselves to our fiance. We were then asked to answer a questionaire consists of 9 questions. One of the instruction was to wrote a love letter to your fiance starting from your fondest hopes & dreams for your life together. As usual, couples were asked to do this separately, then come together to discuss about your answers.

When M & I gathered together for exchange of answers & love letter, I was quite excited. Anxiously, I asked for the love letter first. I read the first line and it was his usual style of starting a love letter to me, "Hi darling, time passes by so fast...". Then as i read on, i felt something, something was tinkling my heart. I do not know why but I had tears in my eyes when i've finished reading his letter to me. And my voice was shaky. I can't explain how i really felt at that moment, I was speechless. I just hugged him tightly and whispered "I love you" at his ear. It was his sincerity & his love that I felt from his words. He has really touched my heart. For the first time, I felt like crying after reading a love letter from M. One of the thing that he said is, "I am so looking forward to write this letter to you... ...i really hope that we can build a family together,"

Thank you darling! I love you! :)

During the sharing, every couples has their own stories to share. It was great to know about others, and i could relate to all their stories because it happened to me & M too.

M & I have a lot of special moments, too much that we couldn't recall. But it is important to remember your special moments, at least the most special one that you've experienced with your hubby. During the downs in your marriage, this special moment can help you to bring back the love feeling you had for your hubby.

Homework: To finish the rest of the booklet.

First Commentator

Congratulations, Marzie! and thank you for your comments love! :)

Music Monday #1: Love You More Each Day

Okay, here's my first entry for Music Monday. Music Monday was created by LJ, a wonderful friend of mine with the intention of sharing her favourite songs and songs that she's currently listening. When I first saw her idea, i thought, "This is great! Now, i can share our favourite songs with our blogger friends." Thanks for the wonderful meme, LJ! :)

Jacky Cheung - Love You A Little More Each Day

I remember this song very well because it was one of the first song that M dedicated to me. He said he has choosen this song because the title speaks his heart. How sweet, rite! :)

Monday, October 13, 2008

About Time Goes By...

Martin: I always believe "forever" because it is our decision to choose whether we want it or not to be.
Maybe some will say "noone will know what will happen in the future, how can there be forever?".
What i can say is, If you choose to be forever....that is your future.

Jean: Time Goes By is actually Our Song. When I first started dating M, I was skeptical about eternal love. I would say I was influenced by my sister's relationship with her ex. They had been dating for 7 years before breaking up. I look at their relationship as a happily ever after kind of fairy tale. So, when they broke up, I was doubtful about love. "How can you break up even after 7 years of togetherness?" I thought.

During our first year, M was always uttering, "I Love You Forever!", but I was sad upon hearing "forever". "Will there be forever?" I was doubtful. Despite my doubt towards M's love for me, M continue to nourished me with his ultimate love. He was being really patience with me. (Thank you, darling!)

As years passed by, I started seeing our future together. It was on our 2nd year that I've choosen this song for M, and it became our song. :) I really love its lyric, and meant every words of it.

Hope you'll enjoy our song too! :)

Time Goes By - Spice Girls

[click to play]

I've never had a feeling so right
Like I have with you
Can't explain the things you do
But boy when you
Tell me softly you love me too

It's like I know we were meant to be
So for eternity
You will have a part of me
And all I need
Is for you to stay right here with me, yeah

Time goes by but we stand still (know it does, I know it does)
Love you for eternity, I will (I will)
I know that we were meant to be (we were meant to be, my love)
That's how I feel when you're with me

You are the reason that my heart beats
And no, I never thought I would ever fall so deep
But now I see
That the love that we share
Is oh-so-sweet

What if I told you that I believe (believe)
That you were my soul, my destiny (my destiny, yeah)
What if I was to say
In every way
Deep in my heart is where you'll be (time)

Time goes by but we stand still (I'm still right here)
Love you for eternity, I will (I'll never go)
I know that we were meant to be (we were meant to be)
That's how I feel when you're with me (how I feel, when you're with me)

Time goes by but we stand still (oh time, oh time)
Love you for eternity, I will (eternity I will)
I know that we were meant to be (we were meant, baby love)
That's how I feel when you're with me

As you hold me close, so tenderly
And watch you fall to sleep
I see in you the one (you the one)
Who now completes
The half of me I used to be (me I used to be)

Time goes by but we stand still (yeah-ey-ee-ey-yeah)
Love you for eternity, I will (eternity I will)
I know that we were meant to be (were meant to be)
That's how I feel when you're with me
(feel when you're, when you're with me baby)

Time goes by but we stand still (but we always stand still, babe)
Love you for eternity, I will (stand still babe, and I know)
I know that we were meant to be (yes we were)
That's how I feel when you're with me

Time goes by but we stand still
Love you forever, yes I will
I know we're meant to be
That's how I feel baby

~ lyric from

Thursday, October 9, 2008


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Monday, October 6, 2008

CMPC #2: Communication

Communication is essential in a happy marriage. But becareful, there's a big differences between conversation & communication. Conversation is a head-to-head talk, eg; daily chit-chatting, where else communication is a heart-to-heart talk. It reveals the inner most feelings of oneself.

Well, I don't think we have any major problem in this area because I am always revealing my inner feelings to M, and I am always pestering M to tell me his inner feeling. But of course, at times, M would tell me his inner feelings voluntarily. :) He's the type of guy who would keep everything to himself. If he thinks by telling out his feelings, it's not gonna make any changes to the situation, he'll keep quiet. (This is wrong, darling! Remember, B & T said, we must always communicate with each others! ;))

There's also differences between hearing & listening. Hearing is receiving words, where else listening is taking the effort and totally understand the other person.

Like previous session, we were given a booklet and asked to do the first part on the spot. The first part was about rating you & your fiancee according to the characteristics in the list. We were fast in completing this task, compared to previous week. :)

B & T asked all of us to share. No one escape from this sharing. M & I were the last couple to share. I was having a sore throat, so M did all the talking. (Thanks, darling!) He started off with, "This is a good exercise. We all have give high rating to all the good ones but the bad one..." before M could finish his sentence, T said, "hide". And M followed, "hide. No, not hide, it's just that we point out the good ones as it can motivational."

Then T continued on and said that we should not hide the bad points from our partner as sooner or later she/ he is gonna know. It is better to be honest. She was going on & on, and we were just listening. I knew she had M the wrong way but i was too hurtful to speak because of my sore throat. I think everyone in the room thought that M & I haven't been very honest with each others.

On our journey back home, I asked M what exactly he wanted to say during the sharing. And he told me this, "I was referring not only about us, but all of the couples in the room. This exercise was good because it is sort of like a compliment to our partners and it could motivates us to go further." At the back of my mind, I was thinking, "I thought so!" :)

FYI, the characteristics were physically attractive, intelligent, fun to be with, humorous and etc. So now, you understand why M has said it is sort of like a compliment to our partners. :)

Homework: To finish the rest of the booklet.

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