Are You Ready For Marriage?

M & I have just watched Sex & The City, The Movie during the recent weekend. We found it kind of dramatic for Carrie to get so upset with Mr.Big that she has totally ignored him, leaving no space for making up. Well, at least she could have listen to his explanation first. But then again, who wouldn't be upset if the groom pulled out at the most exciting moment of your life? It's really a complicated feeling, if i were the bride. It's a mixture of embarrassment, anger, rejected, betrayal, hatred and love, all at the same time.

What i really love about this movie is seeing how supportive this group of girls are! And it has shown us how important our girlfriends are, regardless how old you've grown. :)

So, what was playing in Mr. Big's mind when he decided to leave the wedding? Well, at first, i couldn't understand why he kept calling Carrie and insist on listening to her voice before going in. But later on, i got it. Carrie has let the wedding gets bigger than Mr. Big himself. And Mr. Big was in a 'confuse' state for a moment. He thought that the marriage will change their relationship.

I think that it is so important to talk to your significant other about marriage and all before the BIG DAY. Communication is one of the key to a happy relationship. This will helps to avoid such thing (like Mr.Big) from happening. For M & I, we talk alot about our life and our life after marriage. We're blessed that both of us have the same goals in life. That way, we can work together to achieve them. Just to test my readiness, i've taken the below quiz. And looks like I'm 86% ready for marriage. :)

Are You Ready for Marriage?
You Are 86% Ready for Marriage

This doesn't mean you should rush out and get married...
But if you did tie the knot, it would probably work out great!






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Congratulations, Marzie! and thank you for all your comments love!!! :)

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CMPC #4: Sex In Marriage

Most peoples avoid talking about sex in their marriage. But it is really something we should talk about. In the world's perspective, sex is an activity based and it's for self-fulfillment, where as it should be a commitment and a way of saying both of you are united and belong exclusively for each others.

Sex is a day long love making. Allow me quote from the booklet that was given to us to further elaborate on this statement:

You touch each other alot. You are communicating - if not by touch, by words. You talk about anything & everything all the time. You listen to each other, because what is going on inside the other person is so important to you......The more you are really involved with each other all day long in every way, the more exciting & delightful sex will be for you two.

Again, it is back to communication. We must always communicate with our partner to know & understand what is happening in them. Sexual relationship runs into problem as soon as it becomes an activity in which both parties are seeking individual goals and satisfactions.

Homework: To finish the rest of the booklet.




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***4th time in a row***

Congratulations, Marzie! We Love Ya!!! :)

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CMPC #2: Communication

Communication is essential in a happy marriage. But becareful, there's a big differences between conversation & communication. Conversation is a head-to-head talk, eg; daily chit-chatting, where else communication is a heart-to-heart talk. It reveals the inner most feelings of oneself.

Well, I don't think we have any major problem in this area because I am always revealing my inner feelings to M, and I am always pestering M to tell me his inner feeling. But of course, at times, M would tell me his inner feelings voluntarily. :) He's the type of guy who would keep everything to himself. If he thinks by telling out his feelings, it's not gonna make any changes to the situation, he'll keep quiet. (This is wrong, darling! Remember, B & T said, we must always communicate with each others! ;))

There's also differences between hearing & listening. Hearing is receiving words, where else listening is taking the effort and totally understand the other person.

Like previous session, we were given a booklet and asked to do the first part on the spot. The first part was about rating you & your fiancee according to the characteristics in the list. We were fast in completing this task, compared to previous week. :)

B & T asked all of us to share. No one escape from this sharing. M & I were the last couple to share. I was having a sore throat, so M did all the talking. (Thanks, darling!) He started off with, "This is a good exercise. We all have give high rating to all the good ones but the bad one..." before M could finish his sentence, T said, "hide". And M followed, "hide. No, not hide, it's just that we point out the good ones as it can motivational."

Then T continued on and said that we should not hide the bad points from our partner as sooner or later she/ he is gonna know. It is better to be honest. She was going on & on, and we were just listening. I knew she had M the wrong way but i was too hurtful to speak because of my sore throat. I think everyone in the room thought that M & I haven't been very honest with each others.

On our journey back home, I asked M what exactly he wanted to say during the sharing. And he told me this, "I was referring not only about us, but all of the couples in the room. This exercise was good because it is sort of like a compliment to our partners and it could motivates us to go further." At the back of my mind, I was thinking, "I thought so!" :)

FYI, the characteristics were physically attractive, intelligent, fun to be with, humorous and etc. So now, you understand why M has said it is sort of like a compliment to our partners. :)

Homework: To finish the rest of the booklet.

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